Advice On Selecting A Band For Your Reception

By JB

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While searching for a band for our wedding reception, I spoke with a number of professional musicians. Some were more helpful than others. The following is some advice to consider when it comes to selecting a band for a wedding reception. No offense is meant to anyone’s tastes, experiences, or opinions about performers and/or their managers/agents. With that disclaimer out of the way, here we go.

Question: Some many bands are "showcased" by videotape, and I've seen some that sound good, but you can tell that the music is overdubbed because their lip sync is bad. Granted, they'll never make it on M-TV, but what does that mean for the bride and groom?
Answer: First...videotapes. Yeah, most of them are studio made lip-synched productions. Clearly there are a LOT of bad lip-synchers out there. However, that shouldn't automatically disqualify the band. Videos are a necessary evil in life. They offer clients an opportunity to preview bands without driving all over trying to hear them play live, (if you don't mind crashing someone else's wedding). Not everyone is good a lip-synching. As a matter of fact, I might feel safer with someone who ISN'T good at it...(they haven't had much practice).
The video should be used as a means of "weeding out" the bands that just don't appeal to you. Watch and see if the members look at each other. Is there any interaction? Does the interaction look rehearsed? If a band has to practice their personality for a video, stay away from them!

Q: Is there anything we should know about watching the video?
A: Watch and see if there are any shots of the keyboard player. See if he/she is truly trying to play along with what you hear. Many keyboard players now are "sequencing" their keyboard parts. What this means is that an external or internal computer is actually playing the keyboard, and the performer may or may not be playing anything at all. While there ARE uses for this technique, (the ability to play 5 or 6 parts at the same time...not possible for one player), if EVERY song is like this, it tells me that they are good programmers and not so good musicians! It really isn't much more than a glorified Kareoke. Sequencing also takes out all spontaneity since they have to stay with the track. Ask the band how much of their material is sequenced when you interview them.

Q: So that means that we should still try to see the band live before making a decision -- maybe use the tapes as the "first cut" to eliminate bands we're not impressed by, and go see the ones we liked?
A: Yes, you MUST hear a band play live before booking them. If all of their work are weddings, ask them if they are performing at any of the larger hotels (Sheraton, Holiday Inn, etc). These usually have a lobby area outside the ballroom where you can sit unobserved and listen, (and maybe watch) the band. Something I have found very useful is to invite prospective clients to our rehearsal. We can play some numbers (the one's THEY want to hear) right there in the basement. It also gives the client a chance to get to know ALL of the members of the band, and not just one or two. This is a great way to get a feel for the personality of the group, as well as to discuss whether they would be able to satisfy the play list you want.

Q: OK, we saw a few bands we liked. But we're still not sure. Should we ask for references?
A: Yes. Make sure that the band has a list of references. With any luck it will be a long list. Watch out for groups with three names for references. They are probably family members. Make sure you call several. Ask if the band showed up and set up on time, did they honor requests, did they drink heavily, were they too loud, were they well dressed, and did the guests have a good time because of them or in spite of them. Also ask when the reference's wedding was. If they stumble over the date, watch out...it may be a faker.

Q: Some bands are booked by agents. Any advice on selecting a band through a representative?
A: If you are going through an agency, make sure you are able to speak with the band itself rather than just the agent. Some agents are more up front than others. Many good bands book through agents because musicians tend not to be great business people and don't want to be bothered with that aspect of their job.

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Don't Learn This The Hard Way

  • If you have a band, make sure you insist on continuous music through the reception -- meaning that at least one member of the band is playing at all time -- not tapes, CDs, or periods of silence.
  • Make sure the band agrees not to take ANY breaks during the last hour to hour and a half of your reception. Our reception ran from 2-6 p.m., and our band took a break right after the cake cutting (one hour left in the day). Many people thought this was the end of the reception, and began to leave. Though some did come back in when the band started up again, it would have been much better had the band kept playing non-stop from 5-6 p.m.
  • Make sure you word this very clearly in your contract.

Hope it helps,
JB

PS: Thanks to Steve Kimble of The Jim Bowie Band for his advice and input.
The Jim Bowie Band plays in the Washington, DC area.


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